Will you choose to dance?
I hope you dance!
If you haven't seen this viral video, allow me to introduce you to an inspiring woman, Deborah Cohan. She was about to go into surgery for a double mastectomy. And she danced. I am so inspired by her courage and her decision to find joy and connection even in the face of such a challenge.
Where can you use more dance in your life?
Will you choose to dance?
I hope you dance!
Sometimes we are just so dang hard on ourselves.
When my daughter was a little girl, I remember she did something that was not OK. I was just about to reprimand her when I realized that as little as she was, I had never taught her that what she was doing was not OK. So instead of reacting harshly I gently explained that she was not allowed to do that thing. (Honestly, I don't even remember what it was!) It felt so amazing to me to step a little bit deeper into patience and acceptance and to take the time to be gentle. She learned and I learned. It was a mothering win for me and my daughter and a personal "defining moment."
How often are we so hard on ourselves? We reprimand, demand and berate ourselves for not doing or being "good enough." Well precious ladies, it's time to take a beat, a moment in time, and take a break from the inner critic (who could probably also use a break!).
How can you soften your self talk? What can you say to encourage yourself? What mindset can you step into in this very moment that will support you in gently and lovingly tending to what needs tending?
I'm not talking about dropping responsibilities or ditching important goals. I mean, how can you be with yourself so that you can move forward with grace and contentment?
We know that when life is before us, it's about taking small steps that are really doable and not overwhelming ourselves. How can you tenderly self correct so that you stay on course for your life goals--whether they are goals in business, family, or personal?
At the time of this writing, my mother is 91 years old and has Alzheimer's. She forgets a lot. She asks me how the weather is a lot. The only way to be with her is gently and kindly. The only way to be with her is accepting.
Within each of us is that little girl and that old woman. Within each one of us is the rich power of womanhood. How will you relate to yourself today? Naturally it will reflect in the way you relate to others.
A deep, loving breath can really make a difference too. It's yours in this very moment.
We are born with a full box of colors. You may be really naturally good at using some colors more than others but that doesn't mean you have to limit yourself.
Go ahead. Try some new color. Try bringing new color into your space; a change. Or try a style that is different for you--BOLD
instead of delicate or soft instead of crisp. Bring along a girlfriend for the journey and adventure of adding more color. Give each other encouragement.
You can even enjoy shades of the same color.
Or try the color of a swim instead of walking; or try karate instead of yoga. Eat at a new restaurant. Add fruit to your vegetable salad. Thank goodness someone decided to use vegetables in cake or there would be no such thing as carrot cake!
I took a workshop in laughter yoga and one of the exercises was to speak in gibberish. Ever do that with a baby who can't speak yet? It's so fun and funny. Take an acting or drawing or computer class. Give a workshop and share something that you enjoy doing with others!
Go for it. Soft or bold, bright or pastel, crayon, pencil, marker, it doesn't even matter; express your colors. Your expression will help you release what needs releasing and bring more joy and comfort in surprising and delightful ways. Oh yeah!
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Some people just want to live in their own bubbles. They feel safe that way, or at lease they think they do. They don't want their bubbles burst. But, a "burst bubble" can be a breaking free from illusion. Breaking free from illusion, as painful as it can be, is actually a wonderful thing!
In "The Way of the Peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman, the main character tells his spiritual teacher about his disappointment because he was disillusioned about something. The teacher's response? It was time to celebrate! What a wonderful thing to live free of the illusions.
Sometimes we need to pop those bubbles that we're living in. They are not serving us. At the same time, there are bubbles we can create, bubbles that set boundaries of energy or of thought, in a way like a prayer. What does that look like? Visualize in your mind's eye that you are surrounded by a bubble of color. No harmful thoughts can enter that place. You can imagine the people you love in protective bubbles as well. There is great power in visualization. If you haven't tapped into the power of imagination in creating reality, this is a great place to begin. If you have done this before, take a minute now to tap into this power once more.
Beautiful women, experiment with the imagery of bubbles, use this idea to your advantage. Let the bubbles that are outdated and that do not serve you "pop". When judgments or old thoughts and beliefs are released, you are free to build yourself a reality that serves, builds, and even protects you.
What area of your life would a protective bubble make safer?
What thoughts or judgments can you let go of now? How can you use the imagery of popping those bubbles in your mind's eye to set yourself free?
In the events and retreats that I give, I talk about "Beyond the Bubble Bath". We look for ways to self nurture. How about you actually allow yourself to dip right into a bubble bath for a change, but really give it to yourself, candle lights and all? Treat your inner child to the adventure and magic of bubbles as you release what needs to be released. Give yourself the gift of loving yourself though the proces.
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My friend was in pain after a surgery. "I feel like I have to throw up," she cried, "what if I throw up?" I ran to get the trash can for her, "So, you'll throw up," I said. Some how that matter of fact attitude helped her. She shared with me later that she knew she would be ok even if she had to throw up. (Which she did.)
So, what if you made a mistake?
So, you made a mistake.
It's just a matter of fact. It's in the past now anyway!
So, go fix it the best you can.
Maybe you made a mistake in your own life, maybe you hurt someone else, maybe you fell short in some way. OK. But the day (or night) is not over and you have a chance to do some repair work.
If you make a mistake, do NOT indulge in self pity and do NOT beat yourself up. No. Go back. Fix what you need to and then reroute yourself to be back on track. You keep getting new chances to do things the way you want to do them, with the grace, wit, joy, or peace that you want to bring into your life. You're doing it! Keep going.
Do your best to look for the signs--there are always warning signs. It may come in the form of sage advice from a trusted friend, or a feeling in your guts--an inner voice, or literally a sign like the one in our picture above.
The bottom line is: Everyone makes mistakes. No exceptions. What you do now, how you take action to repair, is what matters.
Baby steps ladies, just one step at a time and the results are spectacular!
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Seriously. (Ok, I'm smiling.) I preach all the time that age doesn't matter in making a difference. You can be very young or very old and you can have an impact on one person or many. You can move one person deeply and she can move a million more. You do not know the reach of the good you bring to this world.
Here is one young girl who has already touched over a million people who have watched her sing this song. Did her mother sing it to her? Or her preschool teacher? Or did she make it up from those who are influencing her? No matter what. You can shine your goodness, your message, into the world in bright and brilliant ways. Shine!
Kakenya is here to lead by example. Her story is a story of courage.
What needs to change in your life? You can find the way to make the changes. Slowly, over time. It doesn't have to happen all at once with great drama. It can happen with quiet determination.
In the Hebrew bible is the story of a five year old girl. She had the courage to speak with her father, a noble leader of the nation, and through her courage, she saved a generation of girls who would not even have been born.
You are not too young. And, you are not too old to make a difference, to change a life or to change the lives of many.
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Can you hear the angels singing? Ahhhhhh..... The Heavenly Choir announcing your enlightenment. But really, what does it mean to be enlightened? I'm not talking about spiritually, but then again, it's all connected. When you are "enlightened" in one area, it does effect your spirit, and even your health.
So what is enlightened? It's that Ah-Ha moment when you understand the joke you didn't get at first. Or the moment when you realize that the very thing that irritates you about the lady who bugs you is the exact reflection of yourself--and now you can finally forgive and embrace the situation. Enlightenment is that glorious moment of insight when you learn some small thing or something major. It doesn't have to be about drama. It means you "see" or understand something and it makes your life lighter.
It is an ongoing process. If you are still alive (silly me, you're here reading this), you have the opportunity for new insights over and over and over again. Even right now. Yes, right this second you can choose it. Are you choosing light filled? What color is the light you want to fill up with? What a liberating process it is to let go of what is unclear and not working, and stepping into what is clear.
Deepening your self knowledge and joy are worth seeking. Find the beauty of where you are right now. (One way to tap into that is through gratitude--even if you are grateful to know more clearly about what you want to actively create in your world.)
Sunbathe in the Light. Let it fill you up metaphorically and physically (yay vitamin D). Dance with the light. Know that shadows are part of life too. And remember, you are also light. Radiate and shine because you really make a difference. I'm so glad you're here.
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I've been there too. You think someone is bound to be a great friend and the relationship just fizzles out. Or you think that someone else is just an acquaintance and over time she turns out to be a dear friend and confidante. Sometimes you think you know but in the end it wasn't what you thought at all.
It's like that in all of life. There is nothing we should take for granted. Well, maybe we can take it for granted that the earth is turning. But in lives, things do not always turn out the way we plan. But here's the thing:
Life will always turn out for the good in the end. And if it's not good, it's not the end. The trick? You have to look for the good if you want to see the good.
And don't be tricked by something you were positive were tiger eyes looking out at you from behind those bushes. Things are not always what they seem, but things can and will always ultimately be for the good.
You are a diamond.
OK, so you have flaws. That is not the main thing about you, it's only the thing that makes you unique in all the world.
Diamonds are made from intense pressure. That means that all the hard times you've had in your life only make you all the more precious.
Life provides the pressure, you get to create the shape and shine.
So shine. Shine quietly or shine out loud, what ever your style, you are a precious gem and you do light up this world.
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