Is it working for you? Are the people you spend time with lifting your spirits and inspiring you? Are the places you spend time in making you smile or bringing you peace? Does your music make you want to dance or bring you peace, or does it make you feel lonely? What about your home environment? Do you love it?
When you see, do, and hear things that lift your spirits or grow your mind, you're going to feel great at the end of the day.
You can have choices about where you go and who you're with and those choices will have a big impact on the joy or comfort or contentment you experience. You can impact your world by your choices.
There's a whole lot we can't control. We're not in control of the things other people say or do. We're not in control of much actually. Even if you're a positive person who looks for the good, this is a world that is full to the brim with challenges. Things get in the way of that smooth ride. Traffic and flat tires happen, ants come into the house, and people can act like jerks (and it really stinks when you're feeling vulnerable or tender on top of that).
What matters in life is not if things are going your way or not, but how you relate to what's happening! How do you respond when the going gets rough?
Here's the secret: Have a plan about the way you want to react to the hard stuff of life. Practice in your mind. Rehearse the attitude you want as your nature. You're not supposed to get it perfect but you can grow, and the growing feels great.
You choose silence, kind words or harsh words. You choose forgiveness or grudges and resentment. You choose. You have the power over some of what you're around and almost no power over what is flowing around you. Your real power is over what you do (on the inside of you and in your reactions) with what is happening around you. There are other posts on this blog with tools to help you grow in the way you perceive and react to life. It starts with the intention to make your life better and the choice to start with one small change.